On August 2nd, Alex and I celebrated our ten year anniversary. Ten years – wow, that’s a biggie. I really can’t tell you where the time has gone, only that I’m unable to comprehend how we’ve spent a third of our lives together and yet it feels like a few years at most. I really feel like we deserve confetti and sparklers from the universe. Not because we’re awesome at this marriage thing, but it does feel like quite an accomplishment and making it to this point is something I don’t take for granted. I could never have predicted how our relationship would evolve, where our paths would lead and what our plans for the future might be. Throughout our years several people have asked, “How do you do it?” (especially once they witness our cultural differences, vastly different personalities, and realize we married so young) and the word that always comes to mind is “commitment”. I’ve been thinking about how to write, what to say about this occasion and how I could share our learnings but really struggling to find the right approach. However, in true meant-to-be fashion, while randomly cleaning out my email last week I came across this gem (saved from Friday 12/17/2010 1:21 PM I kid you not.) I have no idea where it was initially found, only that it spoke to me and I’m so grateful for saving it. This says exactly what I would have wanted to convey, only much more eloquently. Sometimes it’s best just to leave it to the pro’s.
I love you, Vadim Aleksandrovich. Here’s to the next 10, and the next 10, and the 10 after that…
If I could offer one knowledge nugget for taking the time to read this – whether you’re already married, contemplating it, or wishing for it – remember the quote above and wholeheartedly live by it. If you’ve been through a relationship where commitment was a one sided effort, it won’t be hard to relate. Without this understanding, the ways of this world will wear you down like glass in the sea. Marriage is the best full time job you’ll ever have, impress your boss everyday.
P.S. My 2nd favorite quote about marriage.
P.P.S. More anniversaries.